absent father project

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How We Get Wired to Love and be Loved with Dr. Gary Salyer

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How We Get Wired to Love and be Loved with Dr. Gary Salyer

This episode continues our expert series where we talk to healing experts that offer solutions for healing the absent father wound.

In this episode, Dr. Gary Salyer discusses a new take on attachment theory, based on his groundbreaking research into this science of how our brain gets wired to love and be loved. He shares a technique for breaking the cycle of picking partners that mirror early childhood experiences which left us feeling unloved or unworthy.

Dr. Gary Salyer is a transformational relationship mentor. For the last decade, Dr. Salyer has been in private practice offering singles and couples heart-centered transformation so they can re-write the rules for love in their brains and create a love that lasts. Dr. Gary speaks to a national audience as a featured expert on various celebrity TV and radio shows such as Hay House Radio and Coast to Coast AM. He is the author of the ground-breaking book, Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships and Create the Love You Deserve.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Healing the Wound with Mytrae Meliana

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Healing the Wound with Mytrae Meliana

This episode continues our expert series where we talk to healing experts that offer solutions for healing the absent father wound.

In this episode, I interview Mytrae Meliana, who is a trained holistic psychotherapist and sound healer. What does it look like to address the pain or the wound of growing up with an absent or distant father? We explore the concept of re-parenting - finding your own inner parent who will be with you no matter what. We also discuss how to tap into the inner parent and our innate ability to heal ourselves.

Mytrae, who is A WOC immigrant from India, shares her own story of healing and empowerment in her memoir "Brown Skin Girl: An Indian-American Woman's Magical Journey from Broken to Beautiful".

www.mytraemeliana.com

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Super Resilience with Dr Scott Mills

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Super Resilience with Dr Scott Mills

In this episode, we learn the deeper meaning of super-resilience from
Dr. Scott Mills, creator of the Human Evolution System: A Gentle
Approach to Creating More Resilience, Abundance and Joy in the Lives of
People. He shows us how we can finally free ourselves from our hidden
traps.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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I Don't Even Know What My Father Looks Like

I Don't Even Know What My Father Looks Like

In this episode, I talk to Mikey, a young father of two boys, who grew up with an absent father and has never met, nor seen a picture of his father. He shares about father figures that helped him along the way, coupled with the slow, steady experiences of pain and loss of growing up with an absent father. We also explore what the super powers he's created in becoming a father and his commitment to being present and connected. It's inspiring for any parent, especially if you grew up with an absent father.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Divorced Father Leaves Family and Creates Another

Divorced Father Leaves Family and Creates Another

Today’s episode is a conversation with Courtney, a successful sales person and the mother of two young men who shares her story of starting with the idyllic family, a divorce at a young age and a father who slowly faded away.

Vulnerably and courageously, she shares many painful moments, big and small, throughout her life and some deep wisdom that she has learned along the way. She shares how her experience with an absent father impacted her romantic relationships and the healing she has gained from raising two young men. Her superpowers shine through the entire conversation, from her being the leader and care taker at her father’s bedside as he passed away to the extraordinary success she has had in her career and the dedicated, self-aware mom she is today.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Reliability and Value

Reliability and Value

Exciting announcement about what to expect in Season 2. And a call for your stories. Please reach out to me if you would like to be featured on the Absent Father Podcast, be interviewed by me and share your story related to Absent Fathers in service of bringing awareness and healing to the impacts of growing up with an absent father.

Also in this episode, we have a conversation about our extreme desire for reliability and where that comes from all spurred my car being stolen in February and lessons from that experience.

In addition to discussing reliability, I dive into the other thing I crave which is value. Value is essentially getting the most quality by parting with the least amount of money.

Check out this episode to learn how all of that relates to growing up with an Absent Father.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Why Do Dad's Leave? Part 2

In part 2 of "Why Do Dad's Leave?" we discuss the generational nature of father absence. How our family history and the generation's who came before use greatly contribute and help explain why Dad's leave. 

My hope is that it helps all of us to see the bigger picture in our society that contributes to father absence and makes it less personal. If you had an absent father, there's an excellent chance that your father's father was also absent, emotionally or physically, and that his father was absent.

As we begin to understand the father absence and the generation nature of it, perhaps we can begin to interrupt the cycle of physical and emotional abandonment.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Why Do Dad's Leave? Part 1

In this episode we tackle the big question: "Why Do Dad's Leave?" If you have a child, or a dog that you love, you might have thought about that one. How could someone abandon someone and something so great? 

In some ways, it may be a simple answer. That we avoid things in our lives that remind us of our shame or what we believe is not good enough about ourselves. The more shame and pain, the more we are absent.

This is true for the absent father, this is true for me. 

So my question is no longer, "Will I abandon the people I love someday?" instead, it's "How do I abandon the people I love?"

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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God Stuff

Today's episode discusses the role that spirituality and religion plays in our lives. I begin a conversation about my own spiritual journey by sharing the story of my confirmation in the lutheran church (aka Catholic without the fun stuff like drinking and gambling,) and how it served to create the opposite of "confirmation" of faith for me.

I talk about the rest of my spiritual journey and how it relates to our relationship with our parents, specifically our fathers. Finally, we explore the parallels between our relationship to our parents and our relationship to God/Spirit/Universe, or as my longtime friend and mentor, Jodi Larson, might call it: "The Blueberry Muffin in the Sky."

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Never Enough

Do you find yourself in a constant pursuit of being good enough? Are you always busy, often tired and feel like you can never catch up?


This episode is for you, and us. 

In this episode, we breakdown the never ending chase for feeling good enough, where it started, how it relates to our father relationship and how to stop running this race.
We will look at creating a life where our worthiness, value and lovability are derived from the inside-out, rather than the outside-in.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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