absent father issues

Divorced Father Leaves Family and Creates Another

Divorced Father Leaves Family and Creates Another

Today’s episode is a conversation with Courtney, a successful sales person and the mother of two young men who shares her story of starting with the idyllic family, a divorce at a young age and a father who slowly faded away.

Vulnerably and courageously, she shares many painful moments, big and small, throughout her life and some deep wisdom that she has learned along the way. She shares how her experience with an absent father impacted her romantic relationships and the healing she has gained from raising two young men. Her superpowers shine through the entire conversation, from her being the leader and care taker at her father’s bedside as he passed away to the extraordinary success she has had in her career and the dedicated, self-aware mom she is today.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Two Mom's, No Dad, Artificial Insemination

Two Mom's, No Dad, Artificial Insemination

In the second episode of Season 2 of Absent Father Podcast, I interview Nile. In his own words, he is “the product of a bi-racial, lesbian couple and was conceived through the process of artificial insemination.”

His story is fascinating in that he shares all of the traits and super powers and yet, his father never left him, he just never existed. We talk about the challenges he faced trying to understand and come into his own identity, being bi-racial, having two moms and trying to figure out how to be a "man" without the guidance of a father.

Nile is a deeply insightful and thoughtful human being and he vulnerably shares the challenges he faced growing up, the struggle of his parents not knowing how to deal with his big emotions and the amazing super powers he has created from that experience that has him doing deep, healing men’s work and life coaching.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Which One is My Father?

Which One is My Father?

Season 2 of Absent Father Podcast is here. In season 2, we will be hearing your stories as I interview interesting people with unique absent father stories of their own. You will hear from a variety of people who have very different absent father stories but ultimately share the same traits and super powers.

In the first episode of season 2, we hear from Toni. She’s an uber-talented cosmetologist in her mid 20’s and shares her absent father story. What’s unique about her story is that she knows that her father is one of two men. One man, who would be delighted to be the father and to create a relationship with her, the other, a man who doesn’t seem interested in creating a relationship with her.

In the interview we discuss her experience of growing with an absent father, how it impacted her throughout her life and of the some of the super powers she created along the way.

Reliability and Value

Reliability and Value

Exciting announcement about what to expect in Season 2. And a call for your stories. Please reach out to me if you would like to be featured on the Absent Father Podcast, be interviewed by me and share your story related to Absent Fathers in service of bringing awareness and healing to the impacts of growing up with an absent father.

Also in this episode, we have a conversation about our extreme desire for reliability and where that comes from all spurred my car being stolen in February and lessons from that experience.

In addition to discussing reliability, I dive into the other thing I crave which is value. Value is essentially getting the most quality by parting with the least amount of money.

Check out this episode to learn how all of that relates to growing up with an Absent Father.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Perfection

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Perfection

Today's episode explores perfection and the crippling impact of always comparing ourselves to some fantasy version of life. 

I share two stories that really illustrate how perfectionists latch on to what's not working, in the face of all the things that are working.

Finally, we also look at the superpowers that come with this curse of seeing a path to perfection in everything.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Special Episode: Mytrae Meliana Interview w/ Rodney Mueller

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Last month, I was interviewed by Mytrae Meliana, acclaimed women's empowerment and Divine Feminine teacher, speaker, author, and sound healer.

In this one hour interview, we go in depth on the origin of the Absent Father Podcast, as well as the pain and learning from my own absent father story.

I absolutely loved this conversation and something about it unearthed some emotions I hadn't access to in a long time.

Toward the end of the interview, we discuss masculinity and leadership in the 21st Century.

I hope you enjoy the conversation as much as I did.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Authority Figures

Authority Figures can be bosses, leaders, people with rank, people you perceive as better than you, rich people, etc. 

How we relate and interact with "authority figures" is often directly related to our relationship (or lack there of) with our fathers. 

In this episode, we delve into our relationships to authority figures, why they can be so triggering, the different ways we interact with them and how to create more empowering interactions and relationships with perceived authority figures.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Why Do Dad's Leave? Part 1

In this episode we tackle the big question: "Why Do Dad's Leave?" If you have a child, or a dog that you love, you might have thought about that one. How could someone abandon someone and something so great? 

In some ways, it may be a simple answer. That we avoid things in our lives that remind us of our shame or what we believe is not good enough about ourselves. The more shame and pain, the more we are absent.

This is true for the absent father, this is true for me. 

So my question is no longer, "Will I abandon the people I love someday?" instead, it's "How do I abandon the people I love?"

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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God Stuff

Today's episode discusses the role that spirituality and religion plays in our lives. I begin a conversation about my own spiritual journey by sharing the story of my confirmation in the lutheran church (aka Catholic without the fun stuff like drinking and gambling,) and how it served to create the opposite of "confirmation" of faith for me.

I talk about the rest of my spiritual journey and how it relates to our relationship with our parents, specifically our fathers. Finally, we explore the parallels between our relationship to our parents and our relationship to God/Spirit/Universe, or as my longtime friend and mentor, Jodi Larson, might call it: "The Blueberry Muffin in the Sky."

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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Analysis Paralysis

Today's episode discusses analysis paralysis. The agonizing process many of go through when making a choice about buying something.
A small purchase or big purchase, we analyze to the point of exhaustion or to the last minute.
How to recognize it, where it comes from and how start practicing something new.

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Theme song written and performed by Scott Ginsberg.

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